Friends with Benefits


The old saying, opposites attract, isn't always true when it comes to relationships. In fact, we're much more likely to seek out—and spend time with—people who are similar to us. While surrounding ourselves with people whom we have a lot in common with is great, if you don't try to find similarities with those who may be different, you'll be missing out on opportunities that can make your life more emotionally fulfilling. 
I was recently introduced to a woman who, on the surface, had seemingly nothing in common with me. She's about 13 years older than I am, has led a completely different life from mine, and lives in a different state. However, she has an incredible energy and passion for life that I totally identified with, and I loved being around her. I wish she lived closer so we could spend more time together. While we seem to be very different, she's actually more like me than many people whom I spend time with!
Technique of the week: Instead of avoiding people who are not like you and assuming you have nothing in common, be open to meeting and getting to know them. I guarantee you'll find at least one commonality to share, learn something you didn't know,  and make your world bigger and more interesting!

Melissa Garson