Over the years I have certainly made my fair share of choices that didn't turn out the way I would have liked them to—I’m sure you have, too. However, I’ve learned to live with my decisions and maintain inner peace by sticking to a mindset of no regrets.
What I know now—and what I teach my clients—is that every experience whether bad or good is a life lesson. Trust me, I wasn't always this way. But through my work in positive psychology and studying mindfulness I’ve turned my attitude around. Instead of from beating myself up with would’ve, should’ve, could’ve, I strive to simply do my very best in every situation—and then let go, regardless of the outcome.
When you know you’ve really tried and put forth your best effort, you can comfortably feel good about whatever happens. Living without regret doesn’t mean you don’t care about your decisions or their effects (and you won’t always immediately see the benefit in failure), but it’s important to always forgive yourself and look for those silver linings.
Technique of the week: The next time something doesn't turn out the way you hoped it would, instead of saying to yourself “Ugh I shouldn’t have done that” or “Oh I’m such an idiot” or whatever your go-to personal bashing consists of. . .STOP! Instead, ask yourself, “Did I do my best?” and “What can I learn from this?” Always look for the good that will propel you forward.